People talk about Women emancipation and gender equality and feminism but I strongly feel (kindly note the degree of my sentiment- strongly) that the world isn't ready for a steadfast and opinionated woman. Hell! most of the fairy tales have the happy endings - ...and the girl found her prince. Cinderella a poor tormented soul finds a prince. Snow white, again, a poor tortured soul is kissed by her prince charming. I have never heard of a fairy tale where a strong girl supports her man and help him through.
Here are some incidents that have happened to me, my friends, strangers I've observed and stories I've heard.
Here are some incidents that have happened to me, my friends, strangers I've observed and stories I've heard.
#way more male ceos than female ceos
#a girl being called a beta is a compliment, a son on being called beti is offended
#We have ladies wearing burqa's in some communities- at least they own upto their actions..Women even in most developed nations are expected to be mellow and soft or they could come out too strong.
#Whenever a girl who is focused on her career is often advised by her parents to take it down a notch 'nahi to baad me dikkat ayegi'
#'kitna bhi pad likh lo ek ladki ko shaant hona he chahiye and apne partner ki shadow me rehna ana chahiye' - trust me I've seen this happening to a friend who wanted to start up her business at 27 instead of getting married.
#and then there is the bichari aurat who earns more than her husband and can not be proud of the cheque she earns coz let's face it the male ego IS very high
#when a woman is chosen over a man for a promotion we often hear the cliche' which has already crossed your mind so needless to say
#Now a female student's tragedy : You are intelligent and smart - ladkiyon ko to mil he jate hain. You get recruited- ladkiyon ka to qutoa hota hai.... so basically no matter hard you've tried tumhe to waise bhi mil he jana tha.
#Men are threatened by stronger women they prefer someone whom they can protect and take care of, not who is capable of taking care of herself and of her partner too.
......to all my beautiful women out there who stand up for themselves, are courageous, steadfast, bold, intelligent, street-smart, opinionated and ambitious
the world isn't ready for you.. we must learn to live in men's shadows' and take it down a notch
maybe in another 100 years we can hope to be equals .
maybe in another 100 years we can hope to be equals .
Totally agree with the cliches that you have observed, but I believe that lets not generalize that all men are threatened by strong women.
ReplyDeleteIt is something wrong at society level not gender level. Our media channels have not helped in this at all . Cinema, the opium of Indian masses specially in late 70's and 80's decade is also in parts responsible for this perception ,popularising heinous dialogues like " Ijjat L*****" . I always found those the most derogatory words to be uttered on screen. Most of us still observe the discrimination around us.
There is a long discussion in between that how our society has turned this way and what is wrong with it but I will go to the solution of this plague according to me .
We should learn from how we got our Independence . Majority of a generation sacrificed themselves unselfishly. There will be collateral damage , but a generation has to provide the the foundation for a stronger future. I hope I am a part of that generation :)
Could not agree more. I had no intention of blaming men or generalizing them in any way. As a matter of fact I feel that women community is weak in itself, women don't stand up for each other. There are various reasons behind that too but that would be an entirely different discussion. There are more than, way more than, one factor responsible for the current state of women.
ReplyDeleteAs far as the cinema and media is concerned- of course yes, they do influence the masses and hence should pay heed to the message they put out. I Can not begin to put into words how much I loathe the so called item numbers that objectify women.(and no I don't dance to the tunes of munni badnam and shiela ki jawani enjoying myself while calling them derogatory- that is pure hypocrisy)
We definitely should at least try to do something, anything no matter how small or big to be known as the generation that brought the change. Let's just hope we matter :)