The world is not ready for strong women

There's this guy in my class who never fails to mock a girl who 'awws' and 'aahs'. The same guy also dislikes a very strong and opinionated girl I know because, i quote,  'she comes out too strong'.

People talk about Women emancipation and gender equality and feminism but I strongly feel (kindly note the degree of my sentiment- strongly) that the world isn't ready for a steadfast and opinionated woman. Hell! most of the fairy tales have the happy endings - ...and the girl found her prince. Cinderella a poor tormented soul finds a prince. Snow white, again, a poor tortured soul is kissed by her prince charming. I have never heard of a fairy tale where a strong girl supports her man and help him through.
Here are some incidents that have happened to me, my friends, strangers I've observed and stories I've heard. 

#way more male ceos than female ceos 

#a girl being called a beta is a compliment, a son on being called beti is offended 

#We have ladies wearing burqa's in some communities- at least they own upto their actions..Women even in most developed nations are expected to be mellow and soft or they could come out too strong.

#Whenever a girl who is focused on her career is often advised by her parents to take it down a notch 'nahi to baad me dikkat ayegi'

#'kitna bhi pad likh lo ek ladki ko shaant hona he chahiye and apne partner ki shadow me rehna ana chahiye' - trust me I've seen this happening to a friend who wanted to start up her business at 27 instead of getting married. 

#and then there is the bichari aurat who earns more than her husband and can not be proud of the cheque she earns coz let's face it the male ego IS very high

#when a woman is chosen over a man for a promotion we often hear the cliche' which has already crossed your mind so needless to say

#Now a female student's tragedy : You are intelligent and smart - ladkiyon ko to mil he jate hain. You get recruited- ladkiyon ka to qutoa hota hai.... so basically no matter hard you've tried tumhe to waise bhi mil he jana tha.

#Men are threatened by stronger women they prefer someone whom they can protect and take care of, not who is capable of taking care of herself and of her partner too.

......to all my beautiful women out there who stand up for themselves, are courageous, steadfast, bold, intelligent, street-smart, opinionated and ambitious

the world isn't ready for you.. we must learn to live in men's shadows' and take it down a notch
maybe in another 100 years we can hope to be equals .

A HNY...!!!

                               

                                               "You showed me faith is not blind
                                                I don't need wings to help me fly
                                                Miracles happen once in a while
                                                When you believe...!!!"

jotted down a few lines for my college fest. Whenever I feel low I read them and feel rejuvenated. Hope they do the same for you

Rise and shine is what we urge you to,
Appraise the world, for we know it's within you
Rise up to the clouds and make it rain
join us let not the efforts go in vain
apprise the world, for we are coming now
we'll make a difference and you'll see how!!

Believe in you.
Do as you please.

                                     Live for that man in the mirror!

xoxo
Sonakshi 

Zachary Benedict and Julie Mathison

 

 "Just because a love can’t last doesn’t mean it wasn’t real, that it didn’t change you. You can’t go back, you won’t stay the same but I promise that one day, you won’t even want to." 

 "Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass,the world is too full to talk about. Ideas, language, even the phrase 'each other' doesn't make any sense."

"There is a difference between loving the idea of someone and actually loving who they are."

I wrote this one on 4th of December, 2010.
I named it "only then......"

When the clouds dry out
When the moon takes a night out
When the ocean tastes sweet
and the laughter starts to weep
When the wind stops to blow
and the diamonds cease to glow
When the deserts begin to blossom
and that sun cools more often
When this heart stops to beat
and these veins stop to bleed
When the warriors call a truce
and trust bonds are set to loose
Only then will i stop loving you....

female foeticide

Had the privilege  to attend and participate in a function organised to raise voice against female foeticide
something i wrote :

मैं बेटे का साहारा ना सही , बेटी का प्यार तो हूँ
बेटे का चुलबुलापन ना सही बेटी का भोलापन तो हूँ

बेटा चंद रुपये कमा लाता है जानती हूँ
पर दो वक़्त की रोटी बना मैं ही तो खिलती हूँ

कंजक पर पूज कर मुझे अगले ही दिन भूल जाते हो
अपनी माँ से इतना प्रेम है तुम्हे , है वो भी औरत ही , ये क्यूँ भूल जाते हो??

रक्षा का धागा भी को बांधती   हूँ , कमज़ोर हूँ शायद
पर दुर्गा बन सारे दुःख मैं ही तो हरने आती हूँ

यह सोच के पराया करते हो , दुसरे घर जाउंगी , मेरा प्यार बट जायेगा
यह क्यूँ भूल जाते हो की बेटा भी तो बहू लायेगा

अभी तो तुम्हे देखा भी नहीं माँ
अभी से मेरी ये आँखें बंद ना करो

अभी तो तुम्हे  इन हाथों से छुआ भी नही मैंने
अभी से इन हाथों को मुझसे अलग ना करो

अभी तो तुम्हे माँ कह कर पुकारा भी नहीं मैंने
अभी से ये आवाज़ बंद ना करो

अभी तो गोद में लिया भी नहीं तुमने
अभी से अपनी ममता से वंचित ना करो

अभी से अपनी ममता से वंचित ना करो

It's my life ... NOT yours!

There are times in your life when things just fall flat on your face , everything goes wrong , everyone turns a back , be thankful for those times for they teach you who you are and what exactly do you want .
Had a similar day today . The day started with a terrible stomach ache , then i had my workshop ( mechanical engineer so had to work on lathe - literally a pain in the ass :P ) then something weird happened . Out of nowhere i found people bitching against me about my lack of interest in something i believe in so much and have put my heart and soul into.
I am usually the types who want every thing to go perfect , get sensitive about petty issues , stay quiet on being subdued and when wronged . But today was different, and i have someone very close to be thankful to for the same, I did not hold back myself . I ranted ranted and ranted some more . It felt bliss . After a decade i did something 'for me' not for what others myt think . I don't care if it was right for me to berate someone like i did ( it got me a bad feedback :P people are bitching more ) . i just don't care . for once it was me just me . I don't regret it , i don't feel sorry .
It feels floating. M happy... content . It feels so right sitting here in my fucking room and typing this . the world is out there, outside the gate of my room . I will cross paths with this world , but my head will be high , i stood up for something i believe is right .
people will judge you , people will talk , people will have notions and prejudices but DO NOT LET THAT AFFECT YOU . trust me life is truly a bed of roses when you do exactly what YOU want to do - Not your friends , not your family no one.
in the end all what matters is the man in the mirror :)

P.S in case you read this - thank you :)

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The writer's right

In the wake of Salman Rushdie’s   ‘The Satanic Verses’ conjuring violent public outburst ,accusing him of blasphemy, one is forced to contemplate whether or not writer’s should be censured . The book which was banned in many countries sparked violence around the world. The government’s decision to ask Rushdie to refrain from attending the Jaipur Literary festival raised many eyebrows as to how can one rip a writer off his freedom-of-thought.
Writing reflects the intellect of not only an individual but a society.It is rightly said writers are not important their writing is.  A reader when reads a book relates to the book and not to the writer, similarly the writers don’t confront their audience directly the way musicians and singers do. Books by their very nature often offend and create outrage. Writings of a writer can influence the mind of society and if that is accepted, a change is wrought.
Even William Gaddis believed that books should have lives of their own and that writers could only diminish the autonomy and integrity of their work by inserting themselves between the reader and the writer.
If i were to decide i would never ban a book or even a writer for that matter, the youth of today is mature enough to bid stigmas of anti-anything a good bye